I’m not going to go into the details of what I was doing on the day it happened. I’ve been there, and it doesn’t do anyone any good to wallow in their misery.
It amazes me that we choose to re-traumatize ourselves every year on the anniversary…complete with graphic visuals and droning, repetitive descriptions of what happened that day.
You don’t tell a rape victim to re-live the experience every year do you? Ask any medical professional, there is an inherent danger in repeatedly re-opening old wounds.
I think remembering is important – it’s just how we choose to remember. I like to think about the strength, courage and caring so many people displayed during a devistating crisis. I think no victim forgets but they can see the fact that they are a survivor.
Sadly, that’s not what our media is portraying. Gazing into the smoking wound again and again and again in high-definition video doesn’t help us heal, it only serves to inflame anger and keep hatred alive unnecessarily.
Again to use the analogy, it’s like a rape victim being forced to watch a video of the attack again and again in some misguided hope that it will somehow harden them to it. It doesn’t and it never will.
We were violated. It’s true. But there comes a point when you have to start moving towards the future, because nothing can be gained from constantly staring into the past.